Monday, April 11, 2011

verse from "it is well" i've never seen before

But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!

its not always well with my soul but i have more "it is well" days than "it is not well" days. i'm learning. i'm growing. i can feel necessary changes that i need to made positions in which i need to put my foot down. i can't go into great detail which sucks but i don't want to hurt anyone but i'm struggling w/someone very close to me. no not chad. i have asked God to show me how to be respectful and kind when i all want to do is belittle and retaliate. i expect the friends i have that are Christians see the infertility as a lesson and journey in faith. unfortunately one person can do nothing but plant seeds of doubt every time i am around them and i know i have to set up boundaries. i kinda expect this kind of behavior from friends that don't have any faith base but not from ones that do. Do you all get it? God doesn't need our help! you can rationalize all day about how there are millions of doctors and how you should get 47 opinions (til you find the one you have already diagnosed?) because there are so many doctors its due diligence, then obessess how everything should be questioned, then do everything right ...don't drink, don't over or under excersize, eat healthy whole foods, low in sugar, high in fiber, rich in vitamins.... don't forget to take only the prescribed prenatal (cuz Lord knows they're all the same its just the prescription cost $1.25 a pill), take you temperature every morning, have sex the "right way", then hang upside down by your ankles so all those swimmers have a fighting chance, get 8 hours of sleep every night, don't stress (hilarious). on that list of "don'ts" it should say make a sign that you can wear that says "just cuz i might tell you about my journey w/infertility doesn't mean i'm asking for your opinion". trust me you will all know when i want your opinions! until then shut the front door.... i'm mad and i want to just stop, be self controlled, and see this as an opportunity to set some strict boundaries w/these certain relationships that poison my joy. like any new habit it will take discipline. but i'm seeing now that it needs to happen now so that its clear that this negative controlling faith-lacking behavior won't be tolerated around my children.
each thing though it might be sad or tough to go through seems to make sense in the end. i was so pissed about the progesterone preventing ovulation but once i dealt with the reality that its just a month. its not really even a set back because it kind of gave us the break i've been wanting to take. to just sit back and not plan sex around fertility. to remember for a few weeks what it was like to not be trying to have a baby. i think the meds mishap was actually very cathartic for us crazy as it may sound. yeah we want a baby like yesterday but we have each other today. i love my chad. i love him so much.

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